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Subrina Heyink's avatar

This newsletter is a gift. I won't overthink my response. I entered this new year with these thoughts. I thought I’d never share them publicly because I wasn't interested in being debated, but I had to respond to this. I am thin and have never struggled with weight gain, but I know the violence that comes with not being seen as desirable because I am dark-skinned, a young mother, and refuse to ascribe to specific beauty standards. When I date, I oscillate between resenting the performance of beauty to get a match while rejecting all of it because it keeps me questioning my selfhood. I finally deleted the apps. When I turned 30 in May, one thing was sure: I didn't want to be beautiful. It is too laborious, and the rules continue to change, so it is fruitless. As you said, there are more important things: to love, grow older, and inherit the likeness of the women in our families and to nurture.

Thank you for sharing it. I will share it with more people! ❤️

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mary wallace's avatar

I cannot wait to get gray hair, it’s gonna look so cool!

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