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caronahill's avatar

Haaaniyah I really relate to this so much …. I spent much of last year desperately trying to find fulfillment and validation in dating and sex while grieving and it was really a crazy experience. Thank you for this piece

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AB's avatar

I have really been trying to not look at relationships as a way to “fix”. Hard but necessary especially to build a good foundation and not form codependency or enmeshment 🤍

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Skye's avatar

My heart breaks ten thousand times over Haaniyah!!!!

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Haaniyah Awale Angus's avatar

Love you Skye 🫶🏽

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Stanni's avatar

loved loved loved loved loved

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Nafeesa's avatar

I love your writing and this one really resonated ❤️🌷thank you for writing this

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Nirmitee's avatar

This hit so hard in all the right places and I've lost track of the number of screenshots of passages I took as I went along. Thank you for this and sending you love

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Chuma Rooi's avatar

This feels so close to home . I can’t explain how this made me feel and i’d love to read more of your work

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Haaniyah Awale Angus's avatar

Aw thank you so much and I’m so happy to hear you like my work, my essays are on my Substack and my journalistic work is on my website haaniyah.co.uk xx

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Praise Vandeh's avatar

Love the vulnerability in this

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Community Management & More's avatar

This is so honest. The tender kind of honesty that made a tear slip and my heart, twinge a little.

I feel this, deeply. Sounds a lot like me. Especially the part where since my mother died years ago, I find myself searching for this type of love.

Thank you for sharing earnestly. Thank you.

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halima hasan's avatar

firstly allah yerhama for your mother :( this was beautiful. moving and relatable, and vulnerable!! relationships aren’t the goal but i hope you find someone who complements you in every way one day 💖

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